Our brains are not ours alone.
What our parents and family members say to us when we’re small directly affects how our brains grow.
That’s why, this time of year, many of us start to feel dread about going back into the family systems in which our deepest relational patterns formed.
In other words, we can turn into someone we don’t like.
I want to offer you a simple formula I learned years ago from Miki Kashtan:
Challenge + resources = transformation
You can’t change how your family is or what any of your relatives do or don’t do.
But, you can bring more resource to your own experience. The holidays can be a time of transformation rather than stagnation.
You can use the opportunity when these old relational patterns are active to deepen even further into your own purpose, to become strengthened in the difference you want to make in the world.
Where do you find the resources?
That’s the question we’ll be helping you answer in a free webinar next week, “Getting the Support You Need to Survive the Holidays.”
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