If you get a pit in your stomach whenever you see them, it doesn’t have to be that way

When I was a classroom teacher, I had a colleague I couldn’t bear to work with.

We were required to meet every week so that we would be teaching the same lessons to our respective students even though they had different teachers.

I dreaded every single planning meeting.

It was a complete waste of my time – not only would my lesson planning not get done, but I would be so agitated from the way my ideas were received that it would take me the rest of the day to recover.

I would sometimes literally be shaking as our meeting ended and my students started walking through the door.

My heart aches when I think about how much creativity and joy I missed out on, in those years of working with this person.

Sure, I found other ways to find joy, meaning, and creative collaboration, but it was always a workaround.

How much of my precious, creative life energy was squelched in this dead-end relationship?

Does any of this sound familiar to you?

In my work as a communication trainer and consultant, I see people in this kind of situation ALL THE TIME.

Here’s what I know now that I didn’t know then: it doesn’t have to be this way. 

I wanted a way to offer people the kind of focused, ‘get-in-and-get-er-done’ intervention that I wish I’d had back then.

Yes, I fully endorse learning mindfulness, integrating Nonviolent Communication, working on your triggers — practices that pay off over years and decades. Keep going with those life-changing practices!

BUT in the short-term, if you want a fast, effective intervention to free up your energy now, this might be a great fit for you.

I offer short, one-time Dead-end Relationship pivot point sessions. 

It could be a work colleague like mine was, or it could be a family member, community member, or friend.